Softening a Habit
The bad habit is entrenched. You ignore or work around it to make it seem okay. But that takes space and energy; you are running out of both. Yet, the situation is repairable. It must be honestly seen (by only you at first, if you want to keep things safe), then acknowledgement can happen. This step alone requires an openness and tremendous courage. And if you’ve come this far, bravo! You’ve already softened the problem. I cannot overstate how huge that is. You are now shedding years, decades, perhaps lifetimes of old layers.
Your mind is agile. Look at things differently. American philosopher Wayne Dyer once said, “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” There's no need to avoid. If we can real-eyes that what we don’t want to see is not so scary, we can transform that mountain into a molehill. Then, our issue becomes approachable, changeable.