Love. What we think of as selfless behavior in pursuit of love is actually selfish. When we pour more of our attention into a relationship than we give to ourselves, we compromise who we are. For example, when we want to be with someone, we tend to go out of our way to make it happen: we extend niceties, become overly permissive, and tolerate more by accepting less. We justify this behavior by claiming it as selfless – to sacrifice one’s needs for the betterment of the w